Solo motor homing

[LizN]

My husband passed away recently and one day I will need to decide whether to keep the motorhome, exchange it for a smaller van conversion or just not motorhome anymore. Is there anyone in this community who has faced this dilemma? What did you do?

 

[Lee]

We have a number of people in your situation and I'm sure one of them will be able to give you some of their experiences.
In the meantime, if you feel able come along to one of our meets. They are friendly places and you can interact as much as you feel comfortable with.
Just be aware you need to be a full member to attend as it is necessary for insurance reasons.

 

[Pauljenny]

Second best is to look for other forums, dedicated to Solo travellers.
But you will meet a better mix of individuals on this website.
Good luck.

 

[yorkslass]

Hi Liz,
In an identical position to you , it's hard to know what to do for the best. If you feel able, come to a meet....always a warm welcome. Good luck.

 

[marchie]

My husband passed away recently and one day I will need to decide whether to keep the motorhome, exchange it for a smaller van conversion or just not motorhome anymore. Is there anyone in this community who has faced this dilemma? What did you do?

Liz, your first sentence suggests that it is possibly too soon to be making a decision that you may regret later when your sense of loss has passed its peak. Unless there are compelling reasons to sell or change the M/home, what is the harm in hanging on to what is still possibly an appreciating asset?

Attending a Meet, even for only part of the event, will allow you to try the solo option, and you can retreat to the privacy of the M/home whenever you feel the need. And, if there is a problem with the set up or pack down, a request for a wee bit of help will be met with a veritable flood of offers, which will give you a chance to see the kind of mad individuals that comprise this Forum in action!

Hope to see you at a Meet!

Steve and Elaine (she's the sane one)

 

[nabsim]

Lots of solo people in vans for all sorts of reasons reasons. If you are able to do all the regular jobs then it makes no difference apart from mind set

 

[Biggarmac]

Sorry for your loss. Don't make any decisions for a few months. There are so many choices to make just now that it is better to put this one on the back burner for now.

There are groups for people who camp alone. I am a member of the New Companions Camping club. Most of the members are widows and widdowers. www.newcompanions.org.uk. Members of the NCCC organise meets, mainly on Camping and Caravanning or Caravan and Motorhome Club sites. There is a magazine sent to all members, either by post or online, giving details of the meets. You can then contact the person who is running the meet and go along.

Here in Motorhomer.com we have rallies for full members. Many solo members come to these meets. The rally I am currently on has 16 solo motorhomers in the 50 here. 32% of the vans here have just one person in them. If you need any help and advice there are plenty of helpful members here.

 

[BETTSY]

Hi Liz, sorry for your loss.

When you feel ready I can recommend this group. I am a solo traveler and attended my 1st rally recently, I met some lovely people and was made to feel very welcome, I also had an issue with a gas bottle and it was soon sorted just by asking for help. I will be attending further rallies as I enjoyed the friendly group so much. I hope to meet you at a future rally.

 

[andromeda]

Hi Liz I'm in your position and from my first adventure alone in my van this group has been warm and welcoming. The first time I had no idea what to expect or what was expected of me. No pressure at all. You want some time alone, you get time alone; you want company there's company.
I recently also joined a single and widows camping group which offers mutual just female support. Enjoyed my first girl only meet up but it was my first.
Don't be in a rush to make decisions though and don't get pressurised by others who think they know what is good for you. Grieving is a process and sometimes others either can't or won't try to understand because of their own discomfort.
Good luck in your decisions and hope to see you one day at a meet

 

[LizN]

Hi Liz,
In an identical position to you , it's hard to know what to do for the best. If you feel able, come to a meet....always a warm welcome. Good luck.

Thank you

 

[LizN]

Hi Liz I'm in your position and from my first adventure alone in my van this group has been warm and welcoming. The first time I had no idea what to expect or what was expected of me. No pressure at all. You want some time alone, you get time alone; you want company there's company.
I recently also joined a single and widows camping group which offers mutual just female support. Enjoyed my first girl only meet up but it was my first.
Don't be in a rush to make decisions though and don't get pressurised by others who think they know what is good for you. Grieving is a process and sometimes others either can't or won't try to understand because of their own discomfort.
Good luck in your decisions and hope to see you one day at a meet

Thank you for sharing and the advice

 

[Caz]

Sorry to hear of your loss.
Take time to decide what to do, I was in the same position 20 years ago and sold my caravan to my brother, too quickly.
Within a month I was buying another.
There are plenty of us solo ladies in this group and you would be made very welcome if you came along to a meet.

 

[Molly 3]

I am in same situation my late wife and I attendant many meets and were quite well known , I received lots of support and friendship from the forum community , I now go to meets on my own of course it is not the same , I found it a great help and will continue on motorhomiing Bazz

 

[TJC]

My husband passed away recently and one day I will need to decide whether to keep the motorhome, exchange it for a smaller van conversion or just not motorhome anymore. Is there anyone in this community who has faced this dilemma? What did you do?

Hi, Biggarmac has made a brilliant sugestion, which I think it would very wise to follow. Such a place that has transparency is where you need to start and find whatever support you might need.

 

[Hustler]

So sorry to hear of your loss.I lost my wife 5 years ago in a tragic accident.I still have a camper van but find it difficult to take the plunge and go away by myself for any longer than a couple of days at a time.I keep saying in going away for a week just me and the dog but it hasn’t happened yet.One day I’ll do it.Don’t get rid of camper just yet even if like me you just take it out for a day.

 

[Aly1]

Sorry to hear of your loss.
I was in the same position as you 5 years ago and luckily I was advised to keep my van as there are a large number of solo motorhomers. There are a few forums and FB groups for solos and when you feel ready I would recommend going to a few rallies/ meets. I have made some really good friends.
When I knew I was ready to continue motorhoming I changed my van to a smaller PVC. Don’t make any big decisions for a least a year.