Is this funeral hype pathetic?

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I am not commenting on the deceased here but wondering about the hype at funerals with the parading chap clad like some long past victorian gentleman swaggering along in front of the departed and attendees.

Personally, I think it ostentatious, pathetic and totally naff and have left instruction that on no account should such practice take place when I exit the world.(Not yet a while) I would much prefer a simple send off with some quiet dignity instead of what I think is an outdated pompous ritual, for which no doubt an amount is added to the final account tastefully given to the bereaved later.

Am I alone my thoughts?

https://news.sky.com/video/family-and-friends-pay-tribute-to-barry-chuckle-11475110
 
well now then, i want the least spent on my last hourney as possible.......nooooo hurst or fancy cars..........noooooo posh flowers.......some wild ones will be nice..........nooooooo expensive box either..........a piece of black carpet with pink rose pattern on it all stitched up would be my choice...........i would want those who attend to wear brightly coloured c;othing

music........sailing bye.........by the band of the royalmarines
oashkan farewell...........either trumpet or piano.

having said this...i probably wont get much choice.........it.ll probably straight down t.undertakers..........let them sort it.......money down the drain........hate waste........
 
trixie88 said:
well now then, i want the least spent on my last hourney as possible.......nooooo hurst or fancy cars..........noooooo posh flowers.......some wild ones will be nice..........nooooooo expensive box either..........a piece of black carpet with pink rose pattern on it all stitched up would be my choice...........i would want those who attend to wear brightly coloured c;othing

music........sailing bye.........by the band of the royalmarines
oashkan farewell...........either trumpet or piano.

having said this...i probably wont get much choice.........it.ll probably straight down t.undertakers..........let them sort it.......money down the drain........hate waste........
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What about the hats Trixie ;)
 
Gosh Trixie, I thought I was the only one wanting ‘sailing by’ at my departure, although I am happy with the BBC version. Also Lou Reed ‘oh what a perfect day’ , and if it can be squeezed in part of ‘The Lark ascending’. A simple humanist service, garden flowers and half my ashes scattered on Strangford Lough where I have worked and sailed for over 50 years. The other half on top of Slieve Bearnagh, my favourite of the Mourne mountains.

Thought better of having my Hymer set alight like a Viking pyre, despite having some DNA. Anyway there may not be much of me left after all the donor bits are taken!

Davy
 
Edina said:
What about the hats Trixie ;)
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oh yes chris......strict instructions one of my big hats.. they can choose which one.....providing its not one of me good ones..........cant see the point in a good one going up in smoke....or rotting underground... oh and i need to be in one of my floaty dresses.......again not one of me good ones........
 
TeamRienza said:
Gosh Trixie, I thought I was the only one wanting ‘sailing by’ at my departure, although I am happy with the BBC version. Also Lou Reed ‘oh what a perfect day’ , and if it can be squeezed in part of ‘The Lark ascending’. A simple humanist service, garden flowers and half my ashes scattered on Strangford Lough where I have worked and sailed for over 50 years. The other half on top of Slieve Bearnagh, my favourite of the Mourne mountains.

Thought better of having my Hymer set alight like a Viking pyre, despite having some DNA. Anyway there may not be much of me left after all the donor bits are taken!

Davy
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hello davy.....noooo you dont want the hymer set alight....that would be sacrilege ....but would be a fine vehicle to transport you to your final resting place.......after all the happy hours its given you... think it would be quite befitting.

i wouldnt mind my transport being a low loader or similar..............or vehicle used to take old vehicles to the scrapyard......
when my much loved nissan prairie had its day, andersons scrap metal of ripon picked it up..........and told me he woud willing transport me ........told him i wanted bunting adoring it tho...........
 
I don't like the pomp and sermons either. When my husband Martin was ill, he only spoke about a funeral once and had just two things to say about it... definitely cremation and no religion! We gave him a wonderful humanist send off with music chosen from his favourites, including Snow Patrol Chasing Cars, Eva Cassidy Time After Time and finally Bring Me Sunshine and Life is Just a Bowl of Cherries, which for decades he used to burst forth with in the middle of a game of cards or sitting round the campfire or something. Very annoying... and he knew it, especially as he could only sing the one line! :LOL: The day felt warm and personal and everyone said it was just what they'd like when their time comes. I know we did him proud.

On the other hand, my very opinionated eldest sister was pretty adamant we shouldn't have a funeral/ceremony of any kind and used to say just bury me in the garden in a cardboard box and have a party afterwards! Doubt that's even legal :oops: When the time came, none of her children, grandchildren or great grandchildren could bear to do nothing at all, so we just all gathered at the crematorium, without a celebrant... some of her grandchildren got up and spoke about their loving, loud, fun, drama queen Grandma. We were all wearing her favourite bright colours and made sure we had a great party afterwards... she'd have loved it.
 
Minisorella said:
I don't like the pomp and sermons either. When my husband Martin was ill, he only spoke about a funeral once and had just two things to say about it... definitely cremation and no religion! We gave him a wonderful humanist send off with music chosen from his favourites, including Snow Patrol Chasing Cars, Eva Cassidy Time After Time and finally Bring Me Sunshine and Life is Just a Bowl of Cherries, which for decades he used to burst forth with in the middle of a game of cards or sitting round the campfire or something. Very annoying... and he knew it, especially as he could only sing the one line! :LOL: The day felt warm and personal and everyone said it was just what they'd like when their time comes. I know we did him proud.

On the other hand, my very opinionated eldest sister was pretty adamant we shouldn't have a funeral/ceremony of any kind and used to say just bury me in the garden in a cardboard box and have a party afterwards! Doubt that's even legal :oops: When the time came, none of her children, grandchildren or great grandchildren could bear to do nothing at all, so we just all gathered at the crematorium, without a celebrant... some of her grandchildren got up and spoke about their loving, loud, fun, drama queen Grandma. We were all wearing her favourite bright colours and made sure we had a great party afterwards... she'd have loved it.
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Thats the way do it!
 
My dad died last November and we haven't buried or cremated him----------------He donated his body to science and he's now being used to help research at Leeds University. Trouble is though, when we fall off our perches our bits and pieces belong to the family, not us, so we had to agree to his wishes before they could be honoured. That said though. they covered the costs. Funerals are there for those left behind and they are ripped off when they are at their most vulnerable. I admire my dads choice and, even though I am a practising Christian, I am very much inclined to follow his path providing that any useful bits are removed first for organ donations
 
At my father in laws funeral the hearse followed the man with the hat and stick up the driveway. It made it a dignified entrance suitable for the dignified man he was.
 
I buried my dad earlier this year, and opted for a cardboard box inside a reusable casket hoping it saved a bit of mdf :).

Jennie, you can be buried in your own garden provided you own the land outright, and your not too near streams etc. Think I would prefer a meadow full of wild flowers.
 
yorkslass said:
I buried my dad earlier this year, and opted for a cardboard box inside a reusable casket hoping it saved a bit of mdf :).

Jennie, you can be buried in your own garden provided you own the land outright, and your not too near streams etc. Think I would prefer a meadow full of wild flowers.
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However, a grave in your garden is likely to put off a lot (if not all) future prospective purchasers of the property thereby reducing the value.
 
Oh gosh, I'd better go and dig up all the bodies in mine and hide them somewhere else :eek: :ROFLMAO:

If I'd so much as buried the ashes of a beloved pet in my garden, I don't think I'd never be able to move house.
We scattered my husband's ashes at a special place we used to visit at the coast, so I know I'll always be able to go there. That probably wasn't legal either... does anyone know?
 
Minisorella said:
Oh gosh, I'd better go and dig up all the bodies in mine and hide them somewhere else :eek::ROFLMAO:

If I'd so much as buried the ashes of a beloved pet in my garden, I don't think I'd never be able to move house.
We scattered my husband's ashes at a special place we used to visit at the coast, so I know I'll always be able to go there. That probably wasn't legal either... does anyone know?
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No one knows if you haven't told them Jennie.

I suspect it's what most people do. Years ago quite a few of us who used to camp together took the ashes of one of us to the clifftop at Whitby,. He had the last laugh when the wind changed direction at the wrong moment.

I know I would feel the same if I buried someone I loved, or a pet, I wouldn't want to leave either. I suppose it was made legal so those with estates could have mausoleums built, the families intending to stay there.
 
I can remember reading about a daughter collecting her elderly mothers body from the mortuary in her camper van

The daughter drove around to some of her mums favourite places with her mums body in the camper for a couple of days

If i remember correctly she then buried her mum on farm land obviously after gaining all the required permissions
 
I suppose a lot of folk were 'brought up’ on The Chuckle Bros and a showbiz career should end with a showbiz funeral.
Maybe they wanted to give his (no doubt) many fans, the opportunity to say Farewell and Thanks.
 
Trek said:
I can remember reading about a daughter collecting her elderly mothers body from the mortuary in her camper van

The daughter drove around to some of her mums favourite places with her mums body in the camper for a couple of days

If i remember correctly she then buried her mum on farm land obviously after gaining all the required permissions
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I remember reading that as well Trek
 
One of the songs I want is Fat Bottomed Girl by Queen.
We’ve both paid for basic funeral plans.
Someone we met recently had got so fed up having a good time at others friends wakes, but without the friend so he had a ‘living wake’. Apparently a cracking party and he got to see some people he’d not seen in years. He’s left instructions that his actual funeral will just be close family.
 
I've already bought plots for me and Julie and the kids.

As for the ceremony, i don't think I'll be that bothered really.
 
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