At last

[The laird]

After 5 years of sh#te our family have just received some great news from our lawyer, my no2 son received his divorce final last week ,after 5 long years and thousands of £s to lawyers, see u next Thursday work it out it what we call my EX DAUGHTER IN LAW
Tonight the supervision order she got placed on my son has been lifted as we threatened social involvement as she has been so unreasonable ,this meant my son was and has not been allowed to be on his own with HIS son since they parted ,she has not been a nice person so my wife ,daughter and members of the family have had to stay with my son and his son our grandkids all the t8me for to supervise,try explaining this to a wee boy why his grandparents or auntie or uncles must stay overnight etc with them .sorry for the rant but I have been celebrating a wee bit and just want to let it out here a snap o my son and grand son at halloween
Thanks if you've read this onwards and they can now enjoy life together at last

 

[jeffmossy]

Great news big man, get yourself a couple of San Miguel and enjoy

 

[The laird]

Jeff I'm on it ,thanks mate what a weight off us all

 

[runnach]

Goods news for you all Gordon, especially for son and grandson, they can move forward together on their own, and at their own pace

 

[2cv]

Good to hear your great news Gordon.

 

[lincoln66]

I dont know you personally but so pleased your son can build memories with his son. Hate when people use children as a weapon

 

[Pudsey Bear]

Wonderful news Gordon.

 

[RoaminRog]

Excellent news Big Man, you must be over the Moon!

 

[Norfolk NewBoy]

Glad to hear your good news.

However, the son of one of my best friends was only allowed to see his daughter for TWO HOURS per week, in a council-run environment with a social worker present in the room. Sometimes the mother would cancel his visitation at the last minute because of "special circumstances". No overnight stays! Fortunately, he is also getting to the point where these restrictions are about to be lifted, but even that seems to take time.

WE are 100% confident that he wouldn't have done the things alleged by his wife BUT we appreciate that the safety of his daughter has to be the priority for the authorities. How the investigation and decision-making about him has taken over three years is beyond our comprehension but all we can do now is to help him to look forward to a successful future with his daughter and hope that those bitter memories fall into oblivion over time. I will wish the same for you and your family.

 

[marchie]

Glad to hear your good news.

However, the son of one of my best friends was only allowed to see his daughter for TWO HOURS per week, in a council-run environment with a social worker present in the room. Sometimes the mother would cancel his visitation at the last minute because of "special circumstances". No overnight stays! Fortunately, he is also getting to the point where these restrictions are about to be lifted, but even that seems to take time.

WE are 100% confident that he wouldn't have done the things alleged by his wife BUT we appreciate that the safety of his daughter has to be the priority for the authorities. How the investigation and decision-making about him has taken over three years is beyond our comprehension but all we can do now is to help him to look forward to a successful future with his daughter and hope that those bitter memories fall into oblivion over time. I will wish the same for you and your family.

The investigation into the allegations made has to be thorough, impartial, and cross-checked against background information, and Social Services still have an unhappy history of investigations where warning signs etc were missed.

The other element that is so painful is that whilst the individual being investigated and his/her loved ones know that he/she 'would do such a thing', the Social Worker and staff of related Agencies have to question whether the allegations *could* have occurred; and being put through the ordeal of disproving (as far as these things ever can be disproved beyond reasonable doubt) the allegations can be both harrowing and, to the family and friends of the accused, both preposterous and unfathomable, not to mention ridiculously time consuming.

And who wins? The solicitors may end up with earning a tidy whack in fees, but the parents of the child and their own families certainly don't, nor should they have to shoulder the burden of the emotional drain and stress of such proceedings ...

Steve

 

[Linda]

So pleased to hear that. It’s really good news that your son can finally spend time with his son xx

 

[Campervanannie]

That’s great news it’s been a harrowing time for you all especially grandparents when my son was going through the same shit show we as grandparents were stopped by his X from having any contact with our youngest granddaughter for 3/4 years and now she is older we do have contact but there is an emotional barrier that we are having to remove one bit at a time.

 

[The laird]

Been a very long hard haul annie esp for fi as she had things going on with her dad ,and staying weekend's overnighting during a week day and holidays so as Jon and Logan could get together time ,Fi had to pick him up and drop him off due to the she devil but we got there in the end
New chapter last night the first they were together un supervised fi chapped the door and Logan said she was not to go in as it was a boys night in boxers,take away food playing fifa football on the screen
Happy days at last

 

[Fifer]

Great news all round. Sorry to read all the problems that you and family have had to endure due to another person.
Now it is the time for your son and grandson to make new memories together, but they also know you are all there for them when they need you. You've done what we would all do for our families.

 

[andromeda]

Glad it's all over. Unfortunately for Social Services they are considered badly whether they do or don't get it right. The bitterness in broken relationships can be horrendous all round. Your son and Grandsons are lucky fellas to have such supportive family as yourselves in their lives.

 

[The laird]

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Great news all round. Sorry to read all the problems that you and family have had to endure due to another person.
Now it is the time for your son and grandson to make new memories together, but they also know you are all there for them when they need you. You've done what we would all do for our families.

thanks Thea hope you are getting on as well as possible hope to see you in the next year

 

[Fifer]

A

thanks Thea hope you are getting on as well as possible hope to see you in the next year

I'm doing okay Gordon. I'm lucky that I have a close relationship with my son & family.
I am hoping to attend future meets.
Take care T x

 

[marchie]

Glad it's all over. Unfortunately for Social Services they are considered badly whether they do or don't get it right. The bitterness in broken relationships can be horrendous all round. Your son and Grandsons are lucky fellas to have such supportive family as yourselves in their lives.

Not a laughing matter, but one that illustrates perfectly the dilemma that a Children's Services Social Worker faces ( the cartoon was pinned to the Notice Board at one of the Offices where I was providing relief staff cover).

The cartoon has 2 identical versions of a Lynchmob hanging a Children's Social Worker.

Under the first cartoon is written 'What happens when you do intervene'.

Under the second cartoon is written, 'What happens when you don't intervene' ...

Steve

 

[5andy]

That’s great news Gordon. That’s a tough 5 years it’s been for you all, especially your son and grandson. Now hopefully you can all move forward together with optimism.

 

[Caz]

Good news for you Gordon, onward and upward now.

The only winners in these situations are the lawyers.