Invisible

TrevandJenny

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Well now back home after leaving Kent early April destination Scotland. During lockdown considered what upgrades could I do on the MH, Lithium and levellers was the plan, I could not justify the cost in the end of the E&P system however upon reading up on the VB semi air as well as talking to users that was for me.
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The only dealer that had a on the shelf full set was Turriff caravan centre. A phone call later this was in Jan/Feb, set secured, deposit paid to be fitted by them later in the year. Arrived 20th of May left MH with them, they even loaned us a car for free, Of we went to Brother in laws 50 miles away to stay with them.
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Duly collected MH the following week, superb job, all fitted neat tidy, proper fitters. The VB air system, brilliant gives us a little lift or lower well pleased with both.
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Where is invisible you may ask, read on its coming. My pair of AGM batteries are not as good as they were even with changing up to a 120amp panel, Advise was sought on here Great I thought, alas not.
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31st of May I broke my left leg, tib and fib, ouch, 345 x 9mm titanium rod reduction operation mended it, still ouch.
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Jen drove the MH home returning with our car and help to bring me home, mammoth trip,
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Well there we are back home again, a couple of weeks now however here’s my point.
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First trip out today in our car, still ouch, Off we went to local shopping centre Jen driving me as passenger, Arrived at centre, plonked in the wheelchair Jen pushing me around, Has anyone whom have not been propelled in a wheelchair ever considered what it’s like, no would be the answer from most it would be from me I’m ashamed to say…,
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The centre was not to busy but, what did I notice, the total lack of consideration from the majority of others, how many times did Jen move to the side to allow oncoming people free passage, conclusion, most people seemed to just look through us continuing without a thought as if we were not there, Invisible we were, some came so close it was unnerving, only a few did walk off there path so we did not have to move.
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Hopefull I will only be in the chair for a while, I can just walk with crutches for a few steps improving daily.
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lithium and controller will have to wait until leg mended.
 
It is a bit of a nightmare. I know you don't have the option, but I walk in front of the chair, refusing to move off my path. I get scowelled at sometimes, then you see the embarrassment in their face as they spot the chair lol
 
I can empathise too. When my wife was wheel chair bound after a particularly bad MS relapse, we found the same. Folks not 'seeing' and not giving us common courtesy. I even bumped in to colleague of mine whilst out in town one day, who didn't even bother to look down and acknowledge that my wife was there!
 
And then you see people moan that they get run into by mobility scooters. Makes you want to put sharp Pliny bits on doesn’t it? I don’t use one but some family members do, it’s not only a wheelchair that makes you invisible it’s most things that put you out of peoples normal comfort zone. Lots of folks talk a good talk but that’s as far as it goes.
Hope you mend quick you can trip them up with your crutches for some revenge 👍😁
 
I would hope it is not really the majority of people :( . I would expect, or at least hope, that the majority of people would have taken appropriate action before it was needed and so you would not even have noticed those folk, leaving just the ignorant minority that are noticable.

Of course, I could be totally wrong in the above, but I hope not.
 
I have used one when I can borrow one and yes invisible is the right word, I just clout their ankles if they ignore me, it gets their attention.

I'm looking to buy a folding lightweight one but they are quite pricey, even used ones.
 
Part of everyone’s education should be to spend a day in a wheelchair in a busy town centre.

Many years ago at the Great Yorkshire Show (I was working on the Land-Rover stand) I let my mate use a corner of the area to display his wheelchairs (he was a dealer of chairs). During my break I plonked myself in a powered ‘conventional’ chair and set off into the crowds. Invisible is the perfect word to use here, many people didn’t give me space, some appeared to purposely get in my way. There were two memorable incidents:

A group of four teenage lads walked past me from behind, one of them knocked my hat off on purpose as he passed. You should have seen their faces when all six foot four of me jumped up out of the chair and gave them a right royal bollocking!

On the Saab stand I was wheeling around the then new Saab turbo. Two salesmen/reps stood not too far away, I overheard one say to the other ‘I don’t know why that cripple is looking at that car’..... that ‘cripple’ then side swiped the car at speed with the heavily built German wheelchair causing plenty of damage. I turned to the two blokes and said ‘tell your boss it was damaged by a cripple you insulted’. There was further fallout from this, but it would take hours to tell...

My late sister spent a good deal of her adult life in a wheelchair, I was continually astounded at the ignorance shown by many people to her needs. Parking spaces for disabled drivers being used by able bodied drivers, don’t get me started!

In recent years I believe awareness has increased, though still far from satisfactory.
 

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